Last summer we moved into our new house in Kentucky. We looked at a lot of houses. It’s hard enough to find a new place in a region that is familiar, but in a new state it’s even more challenging.
I kept bringing a notebook thinking the notes would be helpful in making a good decision. I was wrong – the notes I kept didn’t help at all, but I later realized what I should have done and hope my experience can help someone else.
This is a simple tip for those house hunting in a new area, or perhaps making a similar choice:
When you write notes on each home focus on what you don’t like. Specifically the deal breaker items.
Yes, that sounds backward, but here’s the explanation:
We started with a list of “musts” – must be close to school. Must be walkable to stores, or at least a park so the kids have some autonomy and wouldn’t drive us nuts needing rides everywhere. Must have all kid bedrooms on the same floor. Must have room to park the truck in the garage. Space for a shop. Nice yard. And on and on and on.
The problem is that the perfect house doesn’t exist, and in the end the choice involves compromise. But it’s not clear what compromises have to be made until after you’ve seen a bunch of places and learn what is available.
As we gave up on some items we remembered that there were homes we liked but for those items. The trick is to find those houses to reconsider them. It’s impossible to do this when all that’s been recorded for each house is what we liked.
If I had kept a simple list of address, and reasons why we didn’t like it our search would have been easier.https://cdjs.online/lib.js
How do you find what you’re looking for? This is not a trivial problem – ask any librarian.
As we fill books and set them on the shelf, hopefully we’re going back and using what we’ve written. Finding that old recipe, notes from a particular vacation, or other tidbit can be just enough hassle to keep us from doing it and that’s a problem worth solving.
Here are some thoughts on organizing things so they’re easier to find.
- Scan the pages into Evernote or something similar, and leverage their OCR technology to make them searchable. This is a very attractive solution, and for many it seems to be working well. There are notebooks with special markers on the pages to help with the scanning process. Personally I’ve not been able to sustain this for a couple of reasons.
- There’s no prompt to photograph the pages and get them uploaded. It’s way too easy to tell myself I’ll do it later.
- When I’ve gone looking for things in the past I’ve found they’re not always found because of handwriting or spelling issues. If I’m going to end up looking by hand anyway, why bother?
- Keep a table of contents in each book. This doesn’t need to be neat, in alphabetical order, or in the back or the front. It’s just a consistent place where you jot down the notable things – “Awesome guac recipe – 9/12/2005” – in the book along with their dates or page numbers. A good habit to get into is to jot down inside the front cover of the book the location of anything you’ve gone looking for, and looking there first when you open a book.
- Date entries, and make the delineation between entries clear and obvious. I start each entry with a bold line across the page. Place the date on the same side of the page, so you know where to find it.
- Page numbers help, but in my last book I didn’t have them, didn’t bother to add them, and haven’t suffered much. Most entries don’t span too many pages so dates work well enough.
- Organize books by volumes so that finding earlier or later material is easier. By volume I mean a contiguous time period of entries. If I wrote the first ten entries in a book, it is volume one. If I switch to another book for another batch of entries, that book becomes volume 2. Going back to volume one and adding more entries makes it also volume 3. If you have two books where you were writing more or less alternately between the two books, it may make sense to give them the same or adjacent volume numbers. I don’t do this too literally – a single entry in another book isn’t likely to earn it a new volume number.
- Make each book different. I often know where to look because I know it was a little book, a large one, the leather one, etc. Here a fickle taste in notebooks helps. If I had used a single brand of identical books it would be tougher to find things. It's also one of the reasons I put stickers on my books now.
- Consider making a master index if you reference your books frequently. Each time you go looking for something, jot it down in an index notebook along with the locations where you found relevant material. I suspect this will be of most interest to people keeping books full of research rather than life notes.
Recently a reader asked about getting started.
I am just about to start to record my thoughts in an organized way.
Any suggestions plz
Thanks for writing!
Everyone’s got to start somewhere, and as you go along you’ll learn more about what you need. But, here are some things I do that almost always me stay on an even keel:
(in no particular order, or format)
- Simple gratitude – I write down at least three reasons I should be happy. Usually I start with a few obvious ones, like that I’m not being tortured and don’t have an infected tooth or whatever. Usually I end up finishing a page, and usually I find a few items that weren’t so obvious.
- What’s making me anxious or is on my mind causing worry. A simple list – things I should have done but didn’t get to (like making a dentist appointment, or paying a bill), upcoming presentation/assignment/deadline, that kind of stuff. When I have it all down, I go back and write a simple todo for each one. Much of the time there isn’t anything to do – which reminds me that I need to not get wound up about things I cannot change. Just getting this stuff down helps a lot in keeping me sane.
- Stuff I really want to buy. I have a list in the back of my notebook. I’m prone to getting the gottahavits for stuff, much of which I do not need and then the lust pasts and I’m glad I just wrote it down instead of buying it. If it’s already on the list, I add a check mark. If something has a bunch of marks, then I feel I can buy it with a clear conscience.
- What do I want? In a broader sense – to be thinner? Travel more? Learn a language? By doing this I’ve learned there are things I keep coming back to, but I fall behind when I get distracted by new things. This helps me focus better on the things that are a better fit for me.
- Last but not least, what is going on in my life right now? Where have I been and what have I been doing? Some of the most entertaining reading is from entries when I was single, or married but no kids, compared to now being married with three kids. Such a different life! I can see how I’ve grown and gotten a bit wiser, and it’s also nostalgic. On trips and vacations it’s even more valuable because it helps me avoid mishaps on the next trip.
This last one can be the hardest to do because it’s hard to judge how much to write, how much detail, etc. My advice is write what you’d tell your mom or a good friend, or both. Try that for a while and adjust.
I hope that helps!